Hello,
Who your lawyer is is very important.
I went to as many different lawyers as I could, now I new from the start that I wanted a female lawyer, as I feel they are much better with getting there way.
It is important that you know your lawyer isn't going to tell you everything you want to hear, If you are asking for something that they know you wont get, they will tell you NO and it's up to you to try and convince them by giving them information they can use to make it happen. this is why I always say WRITE EVERYTHING DOWN, including the dates, and keep records any texts and emails good or bad!
When meeting with all the different lawyers:
# The first thing I pay attention is how hard the Assistant/secretary is working, as they are the ones who do most of the office work, you will be talking to this person A LOT so be sure it is someone you will be comfortable talking to
# The second thing is I wanted someone who had compassion yet knows how to "fight fire with fire" and win!( if you know what I mean) when needed! listen to hear them talking on the phone and with co workers, ( you want them the be demanding on the phone and to get along with there co-workers) Tell them personal stories about your case, ASK QUESTIONS!!
# Then you need to know every lawyer has different views, always be completely honest about
EVERYTHING with your lawyer, they will decide what needs to be said and
when, and what does not need to be said at all, listen to them they
usually know what they are doing, If you don't agree with it then you need a lawyer with different views. It's hard to see a lawyers views in the interview this why you have to tell stories and ask questions, tell them what you want and ask them what they think they can get you before making your choice.
# Next you want to make sure they are affordable. (The price of all lawyers very an expensive lawyer does not mean a good lawyer and a cheap lawyer does not mean a bad lawyer, a lot of the it's the other way around, this is why you must choose your lawyer so carefully)
# The last thing is to make sure they understand your EX things you think she is going to say or do, how hard is she going to fight you in court, you want them to be prepared, if they know it's going to be a difficult battle from the start it will give them a slight advantage, (give them time to gather information)
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What kinds of thinks do you look for in a lawyer?? I will add my favorite 5 answers to the bottom of this post!!
Thursday, March 28, 2013
Tuesday, March 26, 2013
what do you do when your EX badmouths you infront of your child and to your friends
So my friend messages me on Facebook and tells me she spent the day with my little one on the weekend!
She took her kids to her friends child's birthday party, and yeah my EX and my daughter were there (small world.....).
So my EX sits there putting me down, saying this and that to my friend in front her friends and in front of my daughter, and to top it all off when my Ex's mom came to pick her up the two of them cornered my friend (like a pack of wolves as she described it to me) and started asking her questions about me trying to get information that doesn't exist, doing anything in there power to try and make me look bad....
This will happen to you to TRUST ME only lucky ones skip this...... well here's how you respond
Don't call your ex freaking out, don't even tell her you know about it, that's what she wants, she wants you to fall into her trap DON'T you are dealing with enough drama right now don't make it worse...... Is all you have to do is, make a note! Just make a note.. email your lawyer tell her ( yes my lawyer is a her! lawyer selection was very important to me, perhaps I'll share that in another post) everything that happened, your lawyer then put into the notes for the next court date! she may even send an email to the respondent (in my case) and that will be that.
If you do have contact with your EX make sure it's over text message or email so you can keep a record, yes I know this is very sad but it has to be done, even if your situation is a less difficult then mine, you will still want to keep a record of anything important, because if they change their minds at any point they will not hesitate to lie and/or make stuff up.
So that's what I did anyways, things like this have worked out in my favor in the past so we will see how it turns out!
I know these things are going to happen, but it's all about how you handle them the court will only see it if you show them, and that's what they want to see, and if you handle badly you know the courts will hear about it.
What would you have done ? Nothing at all?
PLEASE post your comments in the comment box below!!!!
Frank S
She took her kids to her friends child's birthday party, and yeah my EX and my daughter were there (small world.....).
So my EX sits there putting me down, saying this and that to my friend in front her friends and in front of my daughter, and to top it all off when my Ex's mom came to pick her up the two of them cornered my friend (like a pack of wolves as she described it to me) and started asking her questions about me trying to get information that doesn't exist, doing anything in there power to try and make me look bad....
This will happen to you to TRUST ME only lucky ones skip this...... well here's how you respond
Don't call your ex freaking out, don't even tell her you know about it, that's what she wants, she wants you to fall into her trap DON'T you are dealing with enough drama right now don't make it worse...... Is all you have to do is, make a note! Just make a note.. email your lawyer tell her ( yes my lawyer is a her! lawyer selection was very important to me, perhaps I'll share that in another post) everything that happened, your lawyer then put into the notes for the next court date! she may even send an email to the respondent (in my case) and that will be that.
If you do have contact with your EX make sure it's over text message or email so you can keep a record, yes I know this is very sad but it has to be done, even if your situation is a less difficult then mine, you will still want to keep a record of anything important, because if they change their minds at any point they will not hesitate to lie and/or make stuff up.
So that's what I did anyways, things like this have worked out in my favor in the past so we will see how it turns out!
I know these things are going to happen, but it's all about how you handle them the court will only see it if you show them, and that's what they want to see, and if you handle badly you know the courts will hear about it.
What would you have done ? Nothing at all?
PLEASE post your comments in the comment box below!!!!
Frank S
Monday, March 25, 2013
More Baby Momma Drama... What to do now????
Just when you think things are FINALLY starting to go well..........
So right now my daughter and I get to see each other once a week...Every other week is a sleep over so we get to spend 47 hours a month together.... That's not even 2 days...( and they always pull into my driveway 5 minutes late, and are ALWAYS sitting in my driveway 20 minutes early just counting down the minutes).... and I get an extra sleep over on holidays.
So as you all know I am just recovering from my surgery and may have to return to work this week, in which case I will not be able to take the time I need off for my Easter visit as I just had 3 weeks off. So I have 3 solutions:
1. I take her on the Friday 9am until Saturday 1pm when I start work ( I'd be loosing a few
hours of time but at least we would have some time together).
2. My regular visit on the following Tuesday becomes a 2 day visit.
3. We have 3 weeks of sleep over visits in a row.
To this I am told NO, it is an Easter visit it should be on Easter other wise there is no point. The courts said Saturday night to Sunday if you have to work that's your problem the schedule is the schedule, and I was told that 2 day visits are way too long and that's its not happening.....
Ok so to this I ask Is Friday not apart of Easter the whole weekend is Easter from good Friday to Easter Monday, IF ANYTHING Saturday and Sunday are not Easter, Besides it's not the day that matters it's the time spent together that counts right?
So I decide to mention the fact that we going back to court in July to straighten out the rest of this mess and that I will be getting my 2 night visits then anyways, so why keep punishing Matilda further just let her see her father, Well she thought court was over.... her lawyer basically ditched her from what I can tell right now, really If I kept my mouth shut it would have been a huge surprise when she gets served with the new papers for July,
So she asked me WHAT this isn't good enough for you???? I couldn't help but to chuckle in disgust when I said no.... SHE IS MY DAUGHTER 47 HOURS A MONTH IS NOT GOOD ENOUGH FOR ME AND IT'S NOT GOOD ENOUGH FOR HER ETHER...... notice how she cries more then half the time when she is picked up from my house ? NEVER once has she cried when being dropped off to me! Nothing but giggles and smiles!, she started yelling and had asked me what I expect out of all this, I then told her that she needs to calm down, and stop yelling in front of Matilda, and told her she needs to go home and read the OCL (Ontario children's lawyer) report that she got at our last court date. and that I am asking for what she recommended our settlement in court was not final it was only to last until Matilda turns 3 years old, (I guess her lawyer had forgotten to tell her about that part..) I then told her if she wants to, AFTER going home and reading the papers, we can go out to dinner somewhere and talk about it all and see if we can come up with an agreement so that we can just go to court no lawyers and no fees to pay, and just sign off!!!
It's going on day 5 now and I have not heard anything else...... I have sent my lawyer an email regarding my Easter visit, I hope she gets back to me soon, with some advice!
So right now my daughter and I get to see each other once a week...Every other week is a sleep over so we get to spend 47 hours a month together.... That's not even 2 days...( and they always pull into my driveway 5 minutes late, and are ALWAYS sitting in my driveway 20 minutes early just counting down the minutes).... and I get an extra sleep over on holidays.
So as you all know I am just recovering from my surgery and may have to return to work this week, in which case I will not be able to take the time I need off for my Easter visit as I just had 3 weeks off. So I have 3 solutions:
1. I take her on the Friday 9am until Saturday 1pm when I start work ( I'd be loosing a few
hours of time but at least we would have some time together).
2. My regular visit on the following Tuesday becomes a 2 day visit.
3. We have 3 weeks of sleep over visits in a row.
To this I am told NO, it is an Easter visit it should be on Easter other wise there is no point. The courts said Saturday night to Sunday if you have to work that's your problem the schedule is the schedule, and I was told that 2 day visits are way too long and that's its not happening.....
Ok so to this I ask Is Friday not apart of Easter the whole weekend is Easter from good Friday to Easter Monday, IF ANYTHING Saturday and Sunday are not Easter, Besides it's not the day that matters it's the time spent together that counts right?
So I decide to mention the fact that we going back to court in July to straighten out the rest of this mess and that I will be getting my 2 night visits then anyways, so why keep punishing Matilda further just let her see her father, Well she thought court was over.... her lawyer basically ditched her from what I can tell right now, really If I kept my mouth shut it would have been a huge surprise when she gets served with the new papers for July,
So she asked me WHAT this isn't good enough for you???? I couldn't help but to chuckle in disgust when I said no.... SHE IS MY DAUGHTER 47 HOURS A MONTH IS NOT GOOD ENOUGH FOR ME AND IT'S NOT GOOD ENOUGH FOR HER ETHER...... notice how she cries more then half the time when she is picked up from my house ? NEVER once has she cried when being dropped off to me! Nothing but giggles and smiles!, she started yelling and had asked me what I expect out of all this, I then told her that she needs to calm down, and stop yelling in front of Matilda, and told her she needs to go home and read the OCL (Ontario children's lawyer) report that she got at our last court date. and that I am asking for what she recommended our settlement in court was not final it was only to last until Matilda turns 3 years old, (I guess her lawyer had forgotten to tell her about that part..) I then told her if she wants to, AFTER going home and reading the papers, we can go out to dinner somewhere and talk about it all and see if we can come up with an agreement so that we can just go to court no lawyers and no fees to pay, and just sign off!!!
It's going on day 5 now and I have not heard anything else...... I have sent my lawyer an email regarding my Easter visit, I hope she gets back to me soon, with some advice!
Monday, March 11, 2013
Friday, March 8, 2013
East General Hospital
Feel free to ask any question you might
have about this, even if you are going for surgery on you prostate I can
maybe help you to understand what to expect.. god knows the doctors wont.....
So after getting an anal fistula I have decided to never go to east general hospital ever again, the pre op nurses were both new ... they both tried to put my IV in and both failed.... I ended up having to ask for a different nurse... now I find out they didn't even put stitches in me they only shoved gauze in the hole they made..... and put a patch over it..... (would have been nice if they had explained what they were going to do a little better)
Every time i go there there is always more trainees then doctors...... I AM NOT YOUR LAB RAT if you want to use real people for your studies you need to start paying them
To top it all off they "forgot" to sign me up for the home care..... I was waiting until noon for a nurse to come then I called the surgeon and had them set me up...... and they did not give me any supply gauze/tape/patches/bandages NOTHING....when the nurse finally called they were disgusted that i didn't get any of that... especially since i didn't receive stitches
Second Post::::::::::: So now 48 hours after my surgery I am still waiting for my home care nurse..... she is supposed to come once a day every day an I'm going into day 3 and still no nurse..... they called me yesterday and said that they were very sorry but the hospital didn't sign me up.. and that there would be a guy coming in the morning to drop off some supplies and a nurse would be here around noon,,,, so 10am this morning i get a phone call saying again we are sorry they will drop off the supplies around 2pm and a nurse would be here at 3....... 2pm rolls around still waiting.... 2:05 i get a call from the nurse herself, she says, omg frank i am so sorry we get our work through an agency and they just literally just sent our office the fax right now, i can see that you've been waiting quite some time.. i will be reporting this to the proper authority.. I will be there between 5-7 tonight...... It's now 2:20 and i am still waiting for the supply to get here or for a phone call saying I'm sorry....... YAY for free heath care right
I am lucky that my daughters mother is a nurse, although I am taking her to court right now for more visitation and right for my daughter I was very shocked that she came over and helped me change patches take a bath and clean my wound... but I guess it's safe to say that she was probably just as shocked that I called her for help, and must have known I was desperate, for the help, if I called her..... and hey I got an extra visit with Matilda too!!
Third Posting::::::::::: I ended up having to wait 50 hours for my medical supplies, and 53 hours after my surgery for my first home care visit.... I am glad that the nurse they sent was very nice and quite hot too! unfortunately due to march break she won't be here everyday, she will be back on Tuesday, I hope the other other nurses they send are as nice and kind as this one was, even if they aren't so attractive
Forth posting:::::::::: Well it's been almost 3 week since my surgery I must say my home care nurses have all been wonderful! so caring so gentle and so nice! it's going to sad to see them go..
I have my follow up appointment mid April... IKR a month and a week later....
I may or may not be able to FINALLY go back to work this week! would be nice if I can! but I am still in a bit of pain and not sure how much I can do all at once... I know a walk to the store is painful so I don't see how I can go back to work really
AGAIN: Feel free to ask any question you might have about this, even if you or someone you know is going for surgery on you prostate I can maybe tell you what to expect.. god knows the doctors wont.....
So after getting an anal fistula I have decided to never go to east general hospital ever again, the pre op nurses were both new ... they both tried to put my IV in and both failed.... I ended up having to ask for a different nurse... now I find out they didn't even put stitches in me they only shoved gauze in the hole they made..... and put a patch over it..... (would have been nice if they had explained what they were going to do a little better)
Every time i go there there is always more trainees then doctors...... I AM NOT YOUR LAB RAT if you want to use real people for your studies you need to start paying them
To top it all off they "forgot" to sign me up for the home care..... I was waiting until noon for a nurse to come then I called the surgeon and had them set me up...... and they did not give me any supply gauze/tape/patches/bandages NOTHING....when the nurse finally called they were disgusted that i didn't get any of that... especially since i didn't receive stitches
Second Post::::::::::: So now 48 hours after my surgery I am still waiting for my home care nurse..... she is supposed to come once a day every day an I'm going into day 3 and still no nurse..... they called me yesterday and said that they were very sorry but the hospital didn't sign me up.. and that there would be a guy coming in the morning to drop off some supplies and a nurse would be here around noon,,,, so 10am this morning i get a phone call saying again we are sorry they will drop off the supplies around 2pm and a nurse would be here at 3....... 2pm rolls around still waiting.... 2:05 i get a call from the nurse herself, she says, omg frank i am so sorry we get our work through an agency and they just literally just sent our office the fax right now, i can see that you've been waiting quite some time.. i will be reporting this to the proper authority.. I will be there between 5-7 tonight...... It's now 2:20 and i am still waiting for the supply to get here or for a phone call saying I'm sorry....... YAY for free heath care right
I am lucky that my daughters mother is a nurse, although I am taking her to court right now for more visitation and right for my daughter I was very shocked that she came over and helped me change patches take a bath and clean my wound... but I guess it's safe to say that she was probably just as shocked that I called her for help, and must have known I was desperate, for the help, if I called her..... and hey I got an extra visit with Matilda too!!
Third Posting::::::::::: I ended up having to wait 50 hours for my medical supplies, and 53 hours after my surgery for my first home care visit.... I am glad that the nurse they sent was very nice and quite hot too! unfortunately due to march break she won't be here everyday, she will be back on Tuesday, I hope the other other nurses they send are as nice and kind as this one was, even if they aren't so attractive
Forth posting:::::::::: Well it's been almost 3 week since my surgery I must say my home care nurses have all been wonderful! so caring so gentle and so nice! it's going to sad to see them go..
I have my follow up appointment mid April... IKR a month and a week later....
I may or may not be able to FINALLY go back to work this week! would be nice if I can! but I am still in a bit of pain and not sure how much I can do all at once... I know a walk to the store is painful so I don't see how I can go back to work really
AGAIN: Feel free to ask any question you might have about this, even if you or someone you know is going for surgery on you prostate I can maybe tell you what to expect.. god knows the doctors wont.....
Wednesday, March 6, 2013
Rice Krispie Snacks - Cooking with Daddy 21
This episode was so much fun to make!! but I'm not sure Matilda had so much fun.... what do you think? Rice Krispie snacks - Cooking with Daddy 21
Sunday, March 3, 2013
This is why you don't hit your kids!
- Franklin TheTurtle S well personally i would never spank my child but i agree with the trophy part lol
Kevin McConaghie Why the fuck not? Any sensible adult disciplines their child properly. Spanking isn't abuse, it's keeping them in line. Build a morality. Fuckin' dope.
And fuck "participation trophies".
Franklin TheTurtle S I teach my child good morals, What she does with it is up to her.... I also pay as LOTS of attention to my child, doing TONS of activities with her, from birth so she has the opportunity, to know what she likes to do and how she can occupy her time con...See More- Kevin McConaghie Well for somebody that's all about teaching, you sure did skip English class with your bad grammar and punctuation. But it's nice you think there's an alternative.
Most reasonable people that have grown up have been spanked or hit at some point, it ha...See More - Franklin TheTurtle S did you run outta words? you had start swearing?? yup I'm the stupid one! damn.... why can't people just have a conversation these days....... You go right ahead and teach your child to fear you!! my kids will love and respect me!! just a tip, if you want them to be tough put them in karate or Taekwondo!! now that's discipline, at-least then they can defend themselves while being hit, teach them multiple lessons!!
- Franklin TheTurtle S maybe being hit and hitting is all you know, but it does not have to be that way
- Kevin McConaghie Nobody is talking about having their children "fear them".
Where do you come up with that?
You obviously can't comprehend simple human behaviour, and are one of these new age retards. The kind that WILL give their kid a retard ribbon for participation. - Kevin McConaghie You miss the point entirely. Why do you keep saying all I know is being hit and hitting other people? Stupid woman.
- Franklin TheTurtle S think about it MR. name caller ( again it's all he knows) our going to hit your kid for not doing what he's told, then he is going to go to school and hit some other kid for not doing what he is told..... what are you going to do then? hit your kid and tell him/her not hit people..... no thats not going to confuse them at all
- Kevin McConaghie Well sorry you don't like the name calling, but when people like you are confused, cuss words are neccassasry to point out there idiocy.
I like your logic, cause it's stupid. - Kevin McConaghie Most people have been dispilined properly and been told what is right and wrong, you must not have been, and would not hit your kid for trying to run into traffic or trying to smash a window.
- Franklin TheTurtle S lmao I'm not complaining at all i just think it's funny that your the one calling me.......... lol never mind there's no point
- Kevin McConaghie Thank you for agreeing, there is no point.
And your child will grow up a reckless ignorant cunt like you. Thinking he can do whatever he wants. - Kevin McConaghie But you would, and probably have, cause you were spoon fed by parents that didn't care.
- Franklin TheTurtle S lmao wow ok now we have turned this conversation into a circle...... ignorance is bliss
- Franklin TheTurtle S So heather how you doing
Heather Craig i was spanked as a child, i do not fear my parents.
i think there is a distinct difference between spanking and hitting.
that is all i will say- Kevin McConaghie Exactly.
My parents hit me as a child. Now I want to murder people with a hammer and axe. That's Ms. Franklins logic.. lol. - Franklin TheTurtle S i was beat as a child many times.... I'm just saying it's not necessary, it's LAZY parenting
- Franklin TheTurtle S ok bye bye looser who just keeps saying the same thing over and over not providing any examples and just making himself sound.... well you know
- Kevin McConaghie I wouldn't want you as a mother, you'd let free reighn over everything and at most say "no" or tell me to sit in a corner. Like fuck that will work.
- Kevin McConaghie It might have done you good to get hit in the face with a hammer from time to time.
- Franklin TheTurtle S sit in a corner.... lol MY CHILD DOES NOT MISBEHAVE SHE DOES NOT NEED TO BE HIT... LEARN HOW TO READ god... it's like banging your head off a brick wall
- Franklin TheTurtle S this guy.... just talks to hear his own voice.... i hate people like you get a life
- Kevin McConaghie Good, bang your head more. You missed out on a lot of years of good abuse. It's about time you caught up and got with the program. Make sure you bleed or else you aren't doing it right.
- Franklin TheTurtle S lmao my parents gave me a set of ears and only 1 mouth for a reason.... so i could more listening then speaking..... you should try it some time
- Kevin McConaghie What are you, a Ms. potato head? Your parents gave you a set of ears and a mouth, lol.
- Franklin TheTurtle S you see the point of this debate is long past.... you sir need serious help..... you took so many beating from your parents, what good did it do you? your still nothing more then a mouthy punk
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